From Above
Tuesday, 26 May 2020
"Sure we all have soulmates but we walk past them everyday"
Folds' music is primarily narrative driven, embodying the many personas and faces of western society throughout his work, and this concept album is no exception to the rule. Ben Folds and Nick Hornby's collaborative song depicts a 'she' and 'he' existing separately with their respective partners 'Tom' and 'Martha'. The song briefly notes that this 'he' and 'she' - betrothed to others and having only exchanged a singular look across a bar - are in fact soulmates. The song treats the notion of soulmates as an absolute truth, but more significantly it examines the bittersweetness of this reality - the fact we are utterly oblivious to the existence of our soulmates. I'm not entirely sure if I believe in soulmates personally, but if they do exist, I would certainly expect us to miss them -"we walk past them everyday". It's also illustrated that those 'from above' are painfully aware of the concept of soulmates - burdened by the knowledge that two people belong together without the capacity to invoke change in others' lives. In that one shared moment - their 'heartbeats... synchronised and (stayed) that way forever'. And nothing can be done.
This unchangeable fixation to each other is never fully manifested. We are shown many instances of near misses. The opportunities for connection arise, yet the inconvenience of life pervades through any moment of coincidence or fate. The sense of simultaneous coming and going - only ever a moment away from each other - is ever-present, but the world we live in is a world without miracles. "He never once looked around". You cannot attribute blame to 'he' who does not know what he is missing, yet those 'from above' again are plagued with the misfortune of chance. "There's nothing that can be done for them, it doesn't work that way.'
Living in their states of blissful ignorance, 'he' marries Martha and 'she' marries Tom. Yet we are presented with an underlying feeling of dissatisfaction. Not to be conflated with unhappiness - I feel as though one could live in love without a soulmate, but it is suggested they - still unaware - acknowledge there is, by some metric, discontent in their lives. Although this begs the question: I wonder whether it be possible to be aware of an absence? 'The faint notion that something was wrong". An unknown presence that they are just lacking. 'A phantom limb, an itch that can never be scratched'.
We see those 'from above' contemplate whether "maybe that's how books get written, maybe that's why songs get sung". Interpret this as you will. I feel as though there are two main ideas brought on by this. One, we are shown a world where your ignorance to this profound absence in your life allows you to resume normality and continuity. As a result of our oblivious predicament, we write books, we sing songs, we fill our lives through its many other facets - namely artistic ones. Unlike those watching 'from above', we are not searching for the external, but rather fulfilling the internal due to our state of perpetual unawareness. The entire song is fundamentally dissecting the irony of soulmates - just because you belong together: does not mean you will, does not mean you should, perhaps? As an alternative view, you could argue they are becoming increasingly aware of this absence. Books and songs are mediums in which artists express themselves. The pain of discontent (and more importantly, lacking the knowledge of what precisely this dissatisfaction stems from) fuels our art. If we lived in a world where we were all united with our soulmates, what need would we have for art? We would have complete satisfaction already. Perhaps it benefits us as artists, as creators, and as complexly emotional beings to constantly seek something more. Without this imbalance and paranoia, we could never write books nor could we sing songs. Art is a manifestation of our pain and ambition. There must always be something more for us out there, or there is no point. Our own personal and societal continuity is perpetuated by a sense of ambition, which would not be present if we felt we had reached true satisfaction.
The line "Maybe we are the unlucky ones" also resonated with me due to its ambiguity and ambivalence. The 'we' representing those from the outside watching the soulmates fail to unite. This sense of the 'unlucky' could be a result of their lack of ignorance. They must watch the world continue to turn as 'he' and 'she' create lives without each other, in the knowledge that they were meant for each other. The protagonists are unaware of their own unlucky state, therefore, by the metric of self-perception, we see those who know as unlucky, rather than those who actually are without their soulmates. This notion of knowledge (and its accompanying sorrow) is driven into the heart of the song. Soulmates are treated as a universal normality, but the knowing of such is the real crux of the song's meaning. Would you prefer to know that your soulmate exists and never meet them, or accept that soulmates as a concept is idealised and an arbitrary falsehood? As a second interpretation, the sense of being the 'unlucky ones' could be a further reinforcement of ignorance. Yes, those 'from above' are aware that 'he' and 'she' are soulmates, but no reference is made to their own personhood. Perhaps this is a statement regarding their own ignorance, whilst they watch the infuriating mistrials of 'he' and 'she', they equally live in a state of unknowing of their own soulmates.
As a final reflection on the concept of soulmates, the song interrogates our own sense of entitlement. The existence of soulmates is unquestioned, but whether we are entitled to a life with that person is implicit. The song blends the romantic with the cynical, the idealised with the realistic. We are shown a bitter acceptance of reality. Our soulmates may exist, but the question is not of who, but rather of if. If we should pursue them, if we have the capacity to do so, and if books could get written and songs could get sung without our ignorance and discontent. I feel as though this is where true tragedy is felt. In an existence where such greatness could be achieved, but, decidedly or otherwise, it is not. Contemplating the existence of soulmates is not tragic. Knowing they exist, but failing to fully realise that concept due to life's injustices and inconveniences is perhaps the biggest tragedy of all - because I think the notion of 'what if' is one of the most universal human fears.
Thank you for indulging my analytical brain and my undying affection for Ben Folds. This makes a nice informal change to the depths of 19th Century Shakespearean criticism. Have your own thoughts? Give the song a listen and let me know in the comments. I'd be so interested to hear your interpretations - romantic, cynical, farcical, or otherwise.
Yours truly,
Em Cav